Yes it’s very sad when we interact with people who clearly are not awake or conscious. I am still surprised how many people there are who haven’t yet “seen the light” (and I do NOT mean that in a religious sense.

Rather than be upset with them, I now really, really, really get that what’s going on is how things go when a person is run by ego. And I feel terribly sorry for them. I hold a space in my heart for the time when they will awaken and become conscious. Until then, I treat them something like I would a stuffed animal — not quite “real” yet.

I don’t know if that makes any sense, but it sure beats going down to their level — which in fact is probably now impossible.

Good for you to find something less challenging to do 1 in 10 may not sound like much, but day after day that much exposure just has to be toxic.

I’ve made it something of a mission to be a “drama-free zone” — and tend not to attract people who are not already awake, or on well on their way. It’s a worthwhile commitment to make for yourself and your family to do the same And yes it really is possible, with clear intention — and refusal to play those kind of games. After all, life is meant to be joyous. No point in not putting yourself where the joy is, and staying away from where it “isn’t”.

Thanks for your post!

The one that stands out above all others was a guy from Melbourne (I’m in Western Australia, in Perth, so this guy was on the other side of the country). This was how the conversation (if you can call it that) went:

Me: “What name, please?” (Name of the place/person whose number they want. Standard phrasing — horribly impersonal, but efficient, of course)
Him: “The Entertainment Centre.”
Me: “The Entertainment Centre — at what location, please?”
Him: [Pause]…[Scoff] “What?”
Me: “Where is the Entertainment Centre located? I need to know which directory to search for the number.”
Him: “You know the Entertainment Centre — EVERYONE knows the Entertainment Centre — just give me the number, sweet heart.”
Me: [Bristling...but still being professional] “Sir, we take calls for the entire country, I don’t know where you’re calling from and every capital city has an entertainment centre. Unless you have further information…”
Him: [Interrupting, shouting] “What kind of stupid girl are you? The MELBOURNE Entertainment Centre! The only one that MATTERS, darl.”
Me: [Typing it in]…[Nothing comes up]. “There is no listing under…”
Him: [Interrupting, again; even more condescendingly] “There IS a listing, I’m standing right outside it — trust me sweet heart, it exists. Give me the number.”
Me: “I’m sure it exists, but it’s not listed under the name “Entertainment Centre” or “Melbourne Entertainment Centre” or even “The Entertainment Centre”. If you have no further information or other name…”
Him: [Interrupting, AGAIN] “Oh for f***’s sake, learn how to do your f***ing job, you stupid girl!” [Hangs up].

Maybe 1 in every 10 calls was like that and each call was less than a minute long (ideally under 30sec), which means at least 1 encounter like that every 10min…so next time you call directory assistance, please send some Love their way, lol <33

It's kinda horrifying just how many people like that there are out there =S BUT I have to say I did have almost as many awesome callers who actually tried to break formality and get a giggle and some personality out of me =]

<33 Kitty

Re: “if they don’t leave you alone”. It’s not easy but people really do have a choice about who they engage with. If you don’t like how it’s going, leave. Leave their presence. Hang up. Walk away. Literally. It’s not worth it.

Indigos have better uses for their energy and attention. Put it where you WANT it to be, not with someone who drains, uses, or abuses it.

“They” may keep after you, but if you refuse to play or engage in any way, they will have to find someone else. That’s just how that particular game is played. And it is a game. And you do NOT need to play if you don’t want to.

Consider this your permission slip

Short answer: “If they won’t leave you be, leave THEM be! Leave them alone.” They deserve it.

Re: central air. Good question! We would not use air conditioning at all except that for health reasons we need it. The “green” part is because it uses less electricity than what we had previously, and in fact less than what we would be using without it. That was a pleasant surprise; the new equipment is highly energy efficient.

And obviously yes if we could just not need electricity at all, that would be greener. But then we wouldn’t be online, would we. . . ???

New technologies are going to be required very soon, that are sustainable and ecologically sound — for just about every energy purpose humans require. I’m looking for them and expecting them. If I were several decades younger I might even be working on the inventions myself But clearly that’s for someone else to discover.

If you find a way to allow people to stay cool during intense heat (above 85 degrees) inside the home without artificial means, do let me know

Hope this answers your questions. You may have noticed that we do not yet live in an ideal world; we humans have to do the best we can with what’s here — and make it better as fast as we can. My best contribution is this blog, the coaching work I do with clients — and the custom flower essences I make for people and animals.

What’s yours? How are you personally making the world better? Just curious.

Nancy

and what if they don’t “leave you alone”, or “let you be”?

And how is central air conditioning “green” or energy efficient, when no air conditioning would use no energy at all…?

just curious

Looks like this one touched a nerve all right!

I agree that sometimes “they” want to engage (and ramp up the negative energy) — but who says WE have to go along with what THEY want? I don’t.

Here’s what I try to do instead:

1) Get grounded. Connect with Source and your spiritual practice (if you have one that works for you.)

2) Stay in a calm, clear state of mind. If you need some space to get back to that frame of mind, excuse yourself to visit the bathroom — and take a few minutes more than you need, to breathe and reconnect. Delay your response whenever and wherever possible. (There are all kinds of ways to do this: “Can I get back to you about that, because I’m finishing up a project here right now?” etc. I think you get the idea.) Stall. And use the distance to plan how YOU want to be with the situation. Then do and be that. No matter what.

3) Realize that “they” may be running on adrenaline, or taking energy from your reaction. It’s a common game they play. If you refuse to play it, and withhold your reactive energy from them, the game is over. You have “won” — but really everyone wins. If the game is about getting others to flare up in anger (and yes, there are people who like to play that game) — it requires willing participants. Don’t be one. You can respond calmly and gently instead. (Yes, that is really possible. And it often drives them crazy. But it can be very effective.)

4) Inside every pompous person, every person acting out of fear or anger, is a terrified human being. From a place of Universal Kindness, at least recognize that terrified being with compassion. It could be a new experience for them — and potentially life changing (although that is not up to you, it’s up to them.)

5) Most of all, stay true to yourself and monitor your own energies. Overall, there is nothing one can do about “them”. There is everything one can do about oneself and one’s own state of mind and heart — in fact, I believe it’s why we are all here in this time

Yes it would be easier if “they” would leave us alone. But when they don’t? Use it as a tool against which to sharpen yourself, to become stronger and to shine your Light brighter than ever before.

Go in peace, Light, Love, and your own Truth, my friends. Many blessings for your journey!

It’s good that you were able to say good-bye and good riddance to the dumb-a**… but more often than not we can’t avoid them. Heck, some of them are even our bosses! [for as we all know, promotion isn't by merit usually.]

It would be better if they really were stupid I suppose… they’d be easier to outwit and somewhat more easier to tolerate if they couldn’t help it. But in most cases I’ve encountered, they’re not. They have the brains, the raw intelligence. They just don’t care to use it, or do so for the wrong reasons. Wilful ignorance if you like.

It’s a pity there’s nowhere left on Earth that’s empty… We could have moved there otherwise, and well and truly let them be, forever!