Apr 29 2008
Stupid People — Keep It In Perspective
Yes there are people out there in the world that act like they are stupid. Maybe some of them actually are.
So what?
Let’s face it, the world is not (yet) populated with Indigos and Lightworkers. We came here because there is work to do. The rest of the world is — or is not — ready to accept, help, understand, or agree with us. That’s just something it might be useful to be clear about.
This week I had my own chance to remember this. For about the bazillionth time. We are interviewing companies that install central air conditioning, so that our house can be more comfortable (and energy efficient) during the summer months. It is part of a general “green” campaign we’re doing, to make things better on a personal level, to leave less of an imprint on the environment. So we’ve seen several versions of “sales pitches” for central air equipment and installation.
But last night? Wish we’d had a video of this one! This guy had quite an attitude, and didn’t appreciate our approach to how we intended to handle the transactions. His idea was that he should overpower us with information and force us to sign a contract before he left. Needless to say, this didn’t go over well with us. And that, my friends, is perhaps the understatement of the year!
You know how much Indigos hate being pressured? How we hate being “told” or “sold”? How we hate someone who is not coming from the heart? Someone who does not listen or respect? Well, for whatever reasons this guy had it all and then some! It was so startling to experience it was hard not to burst out laughing at him, for how disconnected he was. But honestly? It was kinda hard to feel sorry for him, too. The phrase that comes to mind here is “pompous a**.” (actual word modified for general audiences here. . . )
It’s too bad, too, because the company he was supposed to represent was actually our top pick (until we met Mr. Pompous.) He might ultimately have made the sale, if he had been willing to listen and just be human instead of putting on airs and trying to force his way into a sale. That’s really stupid in my book!
But see, the world has lots of people who just don’t get it yet. I can feel sorry for everything that they are missing — but I still don’t want them in my space for more than 5 seconds. Thank goodness I have some Invocation Liquid Smudge here — we cleared the whole house after he left. (It needed it. The energy was just awful.) If I’d known first how yucky he was, the guy would never have set foot in the house. (We should have known when he didn’t like our dog. . . that might have been the first clue!) We were caught off guard by his charming smile — but underneath the smile was a lot of darkness. By the time we caught a whiff of his real energy, he was already into his pitch.
What to do about “all those stupid people”?
Best thing I have ever found to do = “leave them alone.” “Let them be.”
Works for me.
How about you?
We showed him where the door was and said goodbye (and good riddance!)
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Leaving them be is all very well and good… if it was reciprocal.
Unfortunately, all too often *they* won’t leave *us* alone.
It’s good that you were able to say good-bye and good riddance to the dumb-a**… but more often than not we can’t avoid them. Heck, some of them are even our bosses! [for as we all know, promotion isn't by merit usually.]
It would be better if they really were stupid I suppose… they’d be easier to outwit and somewhat more easier to tolerate if they couldn’t help it. But in most cases I’ve encountered, they’re not. They have the brains, the raw intelligence. They just don’t care to use it, or do so for the wrong reasons. Wilful ignorance if you like.
It’s a pity there’s nowhere left on Earth that’s empty… We could have moved there otherwise, and well and truly let them be, forever!
Interesting that I stumbled here at the very time I’m dealing with my own “Mr. Pompous.” I have to agree with the solution to “leave them alone” but as Syona pointed out, it’s sometimes impossible. They thrive on strengthening their own sense of self by establishing that they know more than you do. It’s a little game to them, and they thrive on the “back and fourth” exchange. Remember, it’s their game, their rules and no matter how tempted you are, you have to be smart enough not to play.
Hi Jay and Syona,
Looks like this one touched a nerve all right!
I agree that sometimes “they” want to engage (and ramp up the negative energy) — but who says WE have to go along with what THEY want? I don’t.
Here’s what I try to do instead:
1) Get grounded. Connect with Source and your spiritual practice (if you have one that works for you.)
2) Stay in a calm, clear state of mind. If you need some space to get back to that frame of mind, excuse yourself to visit the bathroom — and take a few minutes more than you need, to breathe and reconnect. Delay your response whenever and wherever possible. (There are all kinds of ways to do this: “Can I get back to you about that, because I’m finishing up a project here right now?” etc. I think you get the idea.) Stall. And use the distance to plan how YOU want to be with the situation. Then do and be that. No matter what.
3) Realize that “they” may be running on adrenaline, or taking energy from your reaction. It’s a common game they play. If you refuse to play it, and withhold your reactive energy from them, the game is over. You have “won” — but really everyone wins. If the game is about getting others to flare up in anger (and yes, there are people who like to play that game) — it requires willing participants. Don’t be one. You can respond calmly and gently instead. (Yes, that is really possible. And it often drives them crazy. But it can be very effective.)
4) Inside every pompous person, every person acting out of fear or anger, is a terrified human being. From a place of Universal Kindness, at least recognize that terrified being with compassion. It could be a new experience for them — and potentially life changing (although that is not up to you, it’s up to them.)
5) Most of all, stay true to yourself and monitor your own energies. Overall, there is nothing one can do about “them”. There is everything one can do about oneself and one’s own state of mind and heart — in fact, I believe it’s why we are all here in this time
Yes it would be easier if “they” would leave us alone. But when they don’t? Use it as a tool against which to sharpen yourself, to become stronger and to shine your Light brighter than ever before.
Go in peace, Light, Love, and your own Truth, my friends. Many blessings for your journey!
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and what if they don’t “leave you alone”, or “let you be”?
And how is central air conditioning “green” or energy efficient, when no air conditioning would use no energy at all…?
just curious
Hi Lily Rose,
Re: “if they don’t leave you alone”. It’s not easy but people really do have a choice about who they engage with. If you don’t like how it’s going, leave. Leave their presence. Hang up. Walk away. Literally. It’s not worth it.
Indigos have better uses for their energy and attention. Put it where you WANT it to be, not with someone who drains, uses, or abuses it.
“They” may keep after you, but if you refuse to play or engage in any way, they will have to find someone else. That’s just how that particular game is played. And it is a game. And you do NOT need to play if you don’t want to.
Consider this your permission slip
Short answer: “If they won’t leave you be, leave THEM be! Leave them alone.” They deserve it.
Re: central air. Good question! We would not use air conditioning at all except that for health reasons we need it. The “green” part is because it uses less electricity than what we had previously, and in fact less than what we would be using without it. That was a pleasant surprise; the new equipment is highly energy efficient.
And obviously yes if we could just not need electricity at all, that would be greener. But then we wouldn’t be online, would we. . . ???
New technologies are going to be required very soon, that are sustainable and ecologically sound — for just about every energy purpose humans require. I’m looking for them and expecting them. If I were several decades younger I might even be working on the inventions myself
But clearly that’s for someone else to discover.
If you find a way to allow people to stay cool during intense heat (above 85 degrees) inside the home without artificial means, do let me know
Hope this answers your questions. You may have noticed that we do not yet live in an ideal world; we humans have to do the best we can with what’s here — and make it better as fast as we can. My best contribution is this blog, the coaching work I do with clients — and the custom flower essences I make for people and animals.
What’s yours? How are you personally making the world better? Just curious.
Nancy
Meep…I used to work at a call centre (directory assistance) and the sheer number of “stupid people” calling was just overwhelming =S I ended up quitting because it was messing me up and polluting me so much.
The one that stands out above all others was a guy from Melbourne (I’m in Western Australia, in Perth, so this guy was on the other side of the country). This was how the conversation (if you can call it that) went:
Me: “What name, please?” (Name of the place/person whose number they want. Standard phrasing — horribly impersonal, but efficient, of course)
Him: “The Entertainment Centre.”
Me: “The Entertainment Centre — at what location, please?”
Him: [Pause]…[Scoff] “What?”
Me: “Where is the Entertainment Centre located? I need to know which directory to search for the number.”
Him: “You know the Entertainment Centre — EVERYONE knows the Entertainment Centre — just give me the number, sweet heart.”
Me: [Bristling...but still being professional] “Sir, we take calls for the entire country, I don’t know where you’re calling from and every capital city has an entertainment centre. Unless you have further information…”
Him: [Interrupting, shouting] “What kind of stupid girl are you? The MELBOURNE Entertainment Centre! The only one that MATTERS, darl.”
Me: [Typing it in]…[Nothing comes up]. “There is no listing under…”
Him: [Interrupting, again; even more condescendingly] “There IS a listing, I’m standing right outside it — trust me sweet heart, it exists. Give me the number.”
Me: “I’m sure it exists, but it’s not listed under the name “Entertainment Centre” or “Melbourne Entertainment Centre” or even “The Entertainment Centre”. If you have no further information or other name…”
Him: [Interrupting, AGAIN] “Oh for f***’s sake, learn how to do your f***ing job, you stupid girl!” [Hangs up].
Maybe 1 in every 10 calls was like that and each call was less than a minute long (ideally under 30sec), which means at least 1 encounter like that every 10min…so next time you call directory assistance, please send some Love their way, lol <33
It's kinda horrifying just how many people like that there are out there =S BUT I have to say I did have almost as many awesome callers who actually tried to break formality and get a giggle and some personality out of me =]
<33 Kitty
Hi Kitty,
Yes it’s very sad when we interact with people who clearly are not awake or conscious. I am still surprised how many people there are who haven’t yet “seen the light” (and I do NOT mean that in a religious sense.
Rather than be upset with them, I now really, really, really get that what’s going on is how things go when a person is run by ego. And I feel terribly sorry for them. I hold a space in my heart for the time when they will awaken and become conscious. Until then, I treat them something like I would a stuffed animal — not quite “real” yet.
I don’t know if that makes any sense, but it sure beats going down to their level — which in fact is probably now impossible.
Good for you to find something less challenging to do
1 in 10 may not sound like much, but day after day that much exposure just has to be toxic.
I’ve made it something of a mission to be a “drama-free zone” — and tend not to attract people who are not already awake, or on well on their way. It’s a worthwhile commitment to make for yourself and your family to do the same
And yes it really is possible, with clear intention — and refusal to play those kind of games. After all, life is meant to be joyous. No point in not putting yourself where the joy is, and staying away from where it “isn’t”.
Thanks for your post!