Indigo Coach

As more and more children come into our families with special gifts beyond our current understanding, there is a growing need for people of light to assist with their integration and their growth. One of the newest ways to offer that support is with coaching.

Coaching is a new profession, and one which serves people to develop themselves according to the intentions and patterns they most wish to manifest. While coaching is a powerful tool for working with Indigo and Crystal children, teens and adults, when you are working with a coach who comes from the same energy field, you are already light years ahead. There is less to translate, explain.

As an Adult Indigo, I learned early in my coaching career four things:

1) that Indigos thrive with coaching; it works well for us.

2) that I need my own coach (I now work with two coaches, one for my personal and professional development, and one who works with me on a global coaching program I developed; I can honestly say that hiring a coach was a major turning point in my life — for the better.)

3) that I have some special gifts that are important for Indigo children, teens and adults, in their development process.

4) that support is both a system AND a process.

I will discuss here two of the above topics: why coaching works for Indigos, and why you might want to choose an Indigo Coach to work with you, your kids, or a family member. I will also touch on my view of support systems and why I feel they are so important.

What is so special about an Indigo coach? Let me respond with my own examples, to better illustrate my answers. First, I am able to sense the energy flows, and to understand what exactly is going on. I can often act as an interpreter for the child or the parent, to translate into language as best we can what the experience is about — or coach the child to do this — and then assist everyone involved to make choices based on what the soul purpose is, and what will best support that. This ability is a distinct advantage compared with a coach who cannot do this.

There can be a coaching role to play in determining what is appropriate for each individual. It may be appropriate in the development of a support system to make referrals to other professionals. An Indigo coach can be help the family choose which professionals to engage, and why. Obviously, a child is more vulnerable than a teen, or an adult — and more protection is required. But that doesn?t always mean restriction. Parents of specially gifted children need to learn to see with different eyes, and to re-orient themselves around what I call a soul-based operating system.

This means that we learn to shift from outer appearances, emotional reactivity, and conventional wisdom, to understand deeper meanings, layers of truth, and how to work with our highest selves in making life choices and relating to one another from a place of loving-kindness. We do our bets to look from where the soul looks.

Finally, there is identification. For an Indigo or a Crystal kid, this is simply magical. Do you ever notice how there will be silent and easy camaraderie among children who share the same vibration? There are simply different ways of relating that are not shared with others. And this dynamic is true when you involve an Indigo in the helping process, at whatever level. Often an adult Indigo, who has been down the road a bit further than the child, has credibility because the ?you don?t understand? barrier is harder to pull off. It?s a similar dynamic that makes 12-step programs work.

Won?t it be great when we can have care givers in every profession who are Indigo or Crystal? It?s coming. And it?s happening now, as more Indigos mature and enter the various fields where they have been called.

Parents may be trying to follow a prescribed way to raise children according to the values they were taught, or what their doctor or teacher may be saying — and while sometimes that works, more often it?s the opposite of what would really help. Anything based on control or power-over simply will not work. It kills the spirit, for one thing.

And the parents, in their frustration to do the right thing — or only to find peace in the house — may reach for the nearest solution, or any solution, in desperation. Wouldn?t it be better to have someone on the scene who knows their way around? Someone who understands the ?lay of the land? so to speak? That would be an Indigo Coach, or perhaps another Indigo professional.

In my work, I often see the Indigo or Crystal child or teen first, to get an understanding of what the situation is. Then, I begin working with the parents to involve them in the dialogue and the process. Depending on what the situation is and what the family needs, we collaborate for solutions, and I insist that everyone re-orient around a soul-based operating system, and begin asking questions such as, ?Why are you here? Why did you incarnate in this lifetime? Why did you choose to join this family? How are these relationships helping you to develop yourself? What is missing here? What do you need to thrive in this situation??

We need these answers to know how to design supportive environments for everyone, because the parents require special support, too. This is an opportunity for everyone to wake up and remember who they really are and why they?re here. We revisit that often in our coaching work together!

Many times, the coach?s best role may be as sacred witness for the Indigo or Crystal child or teen and their family. We can all do amazing things when we know someone is watching, who cares about us and who understands what it means and what it takes to accomplish. Humans really are amazing creatures, and we are evolving more rapidly than our consciousness will easily accept — sometimes we need someone outside of our own experience to help us understand what?s going on, and how to relate to our own lives.

Another way that coaching helps Indigos in particular is that it is collaborative. Coaches partner with their clients to achieve intended results better, faster, with less friction than might be possible navigating solo. That?s not to say we need anyone to tell us what to do — that?s certainly not what coaching does, and is absolutely the wrong thing for an Indigo — what we need is someone to acknowledge us for who we are, for what we came here to do, and how we?re doing at that. This is one thing a coach does really well. Coaching is respectful, and values truth-telling. This is another thing most Indigos will require.

And, by the way, people don?t come to coaching because they need it (even if they may.) Clients come to coaching because of the magic that happens as a result of it. I look at you as perfect the way you are, and my inquiry is about how you can be gloriously happy and joyful in your own life, how you can move from where you think you are to where you want to be (which may not be as ?far? as you think it is.) It?s about how we can create something together that you want, that you would not be able to manifest all by yourself. My agenda is your success as you define it. It?s a collaborative partnership. I see you as whole and filled with light, and we enter a relationship where our conversations elicit your greatness. It can be as simple (and complex) as that.

To me, what?s going on in your life is not a problem. I acknowledge that you may experience it as a challenge, and we look to make your life bigger than that. We look at what the learning is, and how you are creating that in your life. We work together to gently remove what is keeping you from your own joy, and to become a powerful co-creator with the Universe to live a GREAT life.

It?s important that you know that coaching isn?t therapy. (Some therapists may also use coaching techniques, but unless they have gone through formal training, don?t assume that they know how to coach.) There can be times when a young child DOES need medical assistance, or psychotherapy, to come back into full balance or embodiment.

Special diets and flower remedies may be needed, to give the electrical system the support it requires in order to be able to handle everything that is happening on the planet as well as within their own development processes. (I will be writing more about flower essences in future articles, so I won?t cover that in this one.)

So a parent may need to involve a team of specialists, ideally all working in tandem and in collaborative agreement about how best to support the family and the children involved. When you are looking for people to come into your lives, make sure you find people who do this kind of collaborative teamwork, even at remote distances.

It?s possible now to have your team working from almost anywhere on the planet, thanks to modern technology. I have clients in many parts of the world, and we speak by telephone or communicate by email technology. And, I have networks all over the world, especially within the coaching community.

Several years ago, I realized that there would be a huge wave of families who would be seeking additional services for themselves and the children who have begun to arrive already and who will continue to be here during this amazing transformational age.

With that in mind, I formed a network of coaches in the US, Canada, and Europe, several of whom are master coaches, who are qualified and prepared to coach Indigos and their families. At this writing, there are 7 of us, and I have discovered several more who I would welcome should they choose to join us. This is the Indigo Coach Network, and we are available to serve Indigos, Crystals, and their families.

Finally, the last thing I want to say is simply this: I wish I had had an Indigo Coach or mentor when I was a child; my life would have been so different, and so much easier. Yours will be, too, when you engage the right team to help.

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Nancy Boyd is an Adult Indigo Writer, Life Coach (Coach U Graduate and member of ICF and the Graduate School of Coaching), and Flower Essence Therapist whose vision is a world alight with love and joy. Nancy?s clients are Cultural Creatives and Indigo kids, teens, adults and their families. You can also access Nancy?s network of trained coaches who work with Indigo kids, teens and adults. Her coaching program that helps people stay on track at http//:www.daytoppers.com is another cool tool for your success. Watch for her forthcoming book soon! Your comments and questions are always welcome.
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