Indigo Coach

Yes there are people out there in the world that act like they are stupid. Maybe some of them actually are.

So what?

Let’s face it, the world is not (yet) populated with Indigos and Lightworkers. We came here because there is work to do. The rest of the world is — or is not — ready to accept, help, understand, or agree with us. That’s just something it might be useful to be clear about.

This week I had my own chance to remember this. For about the bazillionth time. We are interviewing companies that install central air conditioning, so that our house can be more comfortable (and energy efficient) during the summer months. It is part of a general “green” campaign we’re doing, to make things better on a personal level, to leave less of an imprint on the environment. So we’ve seen several versions of “sales pitches” for central air equipment and installation.

But last night? Wish we’d had a video of this one! This guy had quite an attitude, and didn’t appreciate our approach to how we intended to handle the transactions. His idea was that he should overpower us with information and force us to sign a contract before he left. Needless to say, this didn’t go over well with us. And that, my friends, is perhaps the understatement of the year!

You know how much Indigos hate being pressured? How we hate being “told” or “sold”? How we hate someone who is not coming from the heart? Someone who does not listen or respect? Well, for whatever reasons this guy had it all and then some! It was so startling to experience it was hard not to burst out laughing at him, for how disconnected he was. But honestly? It was kinda hard to feel sorry for him, too. The phrase that comes to mind here is “pompous a**.” (actual word modified for general audiences here. . . )

It’s too bad, too, because the company he was supposed to represent was actually our top pick (until we met Mr. Pompous.) He might ultimately have made the sale, if he had been willing to listen and just be human instead of putting on airs and trying to force his way into a sale. That’s really stupid in my book!

But see, the world has lots of people who just don’t get it yet. I can feel sorry for everything that they are missing — but I still don’t want them in my space for more than 5 seconds. Thank goodness I have some Invocation Liquid Smudge here — we cleared the whole house after he left. (It needed it. The energy was just awful.) If I’d known first how yucky he was, the guy would never have set foot in the house. (We should have known when he didn’t like our dog. . . that might have been the first clue!) We were caught off guard by his charming smile — but underneath the smile was a lot of darkness. By the time we caught a whiff of his real energy, he was already into his pitch.

What to do about “all those stupid people”?

Best thing I have ever found to do = “leave them alone.” “Let them be.”

Works for me.

How about you?

We showed him where the door was and said goodbye (and good riddance!)

One of my international correspondents (a young Swedish boy) is working on learning how to meditate in some rather challenging circumstances:

• his available time for meditation is limited by other people’s schedules
• there is almost NO quiet time in the home (TV, radios, etc.)
• he has trouble sitting still for more than 5 minutes

But you know what? With some suggestions I’ve offered him, and a very strong desire to find a way to master his mind and his thoughts, he is actually making it work.

Because a lot of my clients ask — and even among people who are thinking of hiring a coach, this is one of their top questions — soon I am going to be writing some articles about meditating. It will include answers to a lot of the questions I am asked, as well as some practical suggestions.

Now before I get my fingers flying across the keyboards for this, here’s how YOU can help. Tell me what you’d like to know! What are YOUR challenges and questions about meditating? How to teach kids to meditate? What’s your biggest problem with it?

I’d hate to get the article finished — and then hear 10 more things you wanted me to cover.

So here’s your chance! Help me cover everything that’s on your mind about meditating — and let’s get ALL your questions answered!

Thanks for your Light — and for being a part of my world in this amazing time.

Spring is a wonderful time to remember all the gifts that Nature offers us. As I watch the brilliant, soft, shimmering colors blossom forth from the plants, trees and shrubs — smell their fragrance — walk upon the soft velvet green carpets of grass — I give thanks for the rich beauty. And for the energetic support that Nature so freely offers us.

My garden is overflowing with lovely flowers, plants, shrubs and trees that are sending their blossoms forth with exuberant joy. The sun is blessing us all today with bright light, and the wind is sending a soft warm breeze across our faces. Children are happily playing, and people seem at peace for once.

But this week I was talking with a client, who has had some challenges with her family. She was feeling kind of downhearted, and I reminded her to just get out into Nature for a while and let the beauty of the earth help her heal her troubles. She did that, and it really did help.

If you have been following me for any time, you know that I am a flower essence practitioner — and that I believe strongly in the need for Indigos to take flower essences as a way to stay in your integrity and to keep your energy fields clear.

If you have not yet had a chance to visit my other new blog, Dances With Flowers, you might like to go over there and see what’s available that can help put you right with your world. I have some new formulas that I have been inspired to make this spring — some of them just for Indigo families

I’d love to hear your comments here and on my other blog. Let me know what’s on your mind, what you’d like to see, and what you’re up to. Until then, enjoy the beautiful day — and shine YOUR light out. It takes all the flowers in the garden to make a lovely bouquet — make sure YOUR flower of light blossoms as fully as it can. The world needs you!

Keeping kids safe these days is at the top of many parents’ worry lists. There are many things to be worried ABOUT these days — but for parents of Indigos, one of them is the anger factor.

We Indigos come hard-wired to react with anger at any and all of the following things:

• injustice
• “stupid” people (people who are not behaving as if the God in all things matter)
• lies
• anything not coming from Love/motivated by greed, self-centered personal gain, or with intent to harm
• systems and institutions that do not serve (when they are “supposed” to)
• helpers who harm (either intentionally or through carelessness)
• and a whole string of related items (name your favorites here)

The fact of the matter is, for us Indigos managing our own anger at being on a planet that is not what we KNOW it can and should be (umm, “not living up to its potential”???) — gets the benefit of our attention (usually angry.)

Now, an evolved Indigo knows and understands how to USE anger as a tool — and not to be a victim of it. We can understand that it is just a feeling, and that we can use the energy of it to accomplish something good. It can help us to direct our considerable creative powers to take effective and hopefully compassionate action, that will catalyze the necessary changes. It requires us to:

• be clear about what the ideal might be (we usually are crystal clear about this)
• communicate it clearly to others — in a form that they can hear. This is challenging — and can be a skill we Indigos would be well served to master, if we haven’t already. We must be able to get the information into a form that the people and institutions we target for change can DO something with, not just react against. People in general don’t like change (unlike many Indigos who thrive on it.) That one is a hard lesson to learn!
• Control our own emotions and not be in reactive mode. To take the time to process our feelings and think through what a positive action might be for us to take.

Just this week I had one of those “opportunities” to exercise that muscle. I came up once again against the institution of health insurance — which as most everyone knows is a dying, extremely dysfunctional structure. Maybe the stars were aligned badly or something, but I spent at least an hour in one of the deepest rages I have felt for some time. For almost all of the reasons identified above, actually.

The bad news is — no, we don’t ever entirely overcome our hard-wiring. The impulses are always there, just waiting to be triggered. Sorry.

The good news is that we CAN learn what to do with ourselves when this happens. We do NOT need to create an “incident” that escalates the problem. We CAN manage our own emotions and master them. Between the many phone calls that were required, I spent some time meditating, taking flower essences, and calming my spirit. I called a friend to vent and say what’s going on. I listened to their wise advice. And before I picked up the phone for the next call, I blessed the outcome for the greater good. I need to tell you, it took ALL of the steps I’m mentioning here, to help me through this one.

I don’t feel good about myself when I respond with so much anger inside. I know that this is not helpful, if I were to express the powerful intensity I feel. But I also know that I have it for a reason. I need to DO something useful with it. I need to channel it into a powerful action. And this, I will do. In my own time and in my own way. I will exercise self discipline, which I have learned painfully over many years, and then act. I feel more self-esteem when I know that I can master the powerful feelings, rather than allow them to dictate what and how I will respond.

Being response-able is a very important thing. We who parent and teach must start early with the young Indigos, because it is not something we are born with — we need to develop the Mastery Muscle of self discipline. Failure to do this results in suicides and some of the tragic mass murders that we have seen. We can prevent these. And we must!

What mosts helps an Indigo when we are triggered is

• someone to listen to us, to really hear us and hear our pain
• someone to help or coach us through to our own self mastery of the feelings, rather than tell us what we should be doing or how to behave
• flower essences, to put our sensitive electrical circuits back in proper shape
• time to get calm and to gain perspective on the situation.

Help your kids and teens — and help yourself, if you are the Indigo — by taking these steps. It makes a world of difference. Coach them through the mastery process — and master self discipline yourself.

For those who are interested, I am working right now on a series of new flower essence formulas, one of which will help Indigos (and everyone, actually) with the issues of self-mastery of anger. The other essences in the series will help with the fluctuations in our energy fields, help us not to take on energies from outside ourselves (whether that is from other people or the environment or from electrical and electronic devices.)

For more information about the flower essences, I hope you will join my other blog, Dances With Flowers. I will be posting the news there (and will try to update here also — but you will get it over there first.)

Meanwhile, if you are a parent of Indigo kids or teens, or an Indigo yourself, there is hope for the anger! You can help your kids by modeling healthy expressions of anger (hint: this does NOT mean to keep it bottled in!), to learn how to work with and manage your own emotions, and to learn what their purpose is in your life.

Don’t be afraid of the anger — be afraid of what you will mindlessly do with it, until you know how to work with it and have it serve you. You can do this! I promise!

Many people are reporting that the content and tone of their dreams has changed dramatically over the past few weeks or months. I’d have to say that’s been happening for me, too. It’s as if suddenly a doorway opened inside the dream world, and now, everything is different there. We’re in a whole new “world” where we’ve never been before!

It’s not alarming, exactly, but I can say for certainty that NONE of my dreams are the same as they used to be — and I’m not sure why. One of the many changes was that I started having what I might call “saga” dreams — where there is an ongoing story thread that plays like a saga novel or a long, complicated movie. Before that, my dreams were more like “clips” rather than complete stories. Now, I’ve got an all-night long movie playing (that I don’t remember selecting.)

Guess I shouldn’t complain, because they are rather entertaining. But the other thing that’s different? In many of my previous dreams, there is a sense that I am “working something out”. I feel that I am actually doing some kind of Light Work in the dream time.

But not lately. While I am a participant, it doesn’t feel like work anymore. It’s just. . .different. And I wish I could explain more about that. Right now language fails me. I’ll ponder on it and see if more insights occur.

One more difference. The content is “about” people I have never met, and places I have never been, and things I essentially know nothing about — although I seem to do fine with them inside the dream. When I awaken in the mornings, I am thinking “I wonder what the heck THAT was about???”

I’ll have to go back and look at the calendar to see if I can pinpoint exactly when this all started happening, and see if I can tie it to any earth shifts or cosmic events. I know for sure that this is all very recent and new. Meanwhile, if you’ve been experiencing big changes in the quality and content of YOUR dreams, you’re not alone.

Just thought you’d like to know.

Stay tuned! I’m sure more will be revealed.

One of the most frequent questions I hear from people is, “How do you know if you are an Adult Indigo?” Or “I thought this was only about the kids. How could an adult be one?” I hope this post answers your questions — and gives you some “food for thought.”

First of all, the question wouldn’t even come up unless someone has a deep identification with the traits and characteristics that distinguish Indigos. (Feel free to take the Indigo assessment here to find out where you fall within a range of common Indigo traits and characteristics.) So one would wonder, where is that identification coming from?

Secondly, I sometimes hear the statement from people in their 4th, 5th or 6th decades that “I’m too old to be Indigo.” Not so. Here’s why. The early Indigos (and I am one of them; maybe you are too!) were pretty much “in hiding” until the 1980’s when the next BIG wave of children began to arrive. Until then, it was dangerous in a million ways for us to reveal who we are and what our soul mission is here.

Why is that important to know? First of all, if someone is “in hiding” then they are not likely to reveal themselves to others, except perhaps for a very small circle of trusted friends or family members. How would the world know about us if we didn’t want to be discovered? (And trust me, we didn’t!)

Secondly, when the large wave of new Indigo children came in (and here I’m talking about millions of Indigo babies being born into families all around the world), the energy field upon which we adult Indigos have depended grew more stable. We did not need to rely solely on the intricate and thin web of Light that we had built with our own systems and knowledge. (And yes, there was such a web, before the large one we all created together later!) The new wave allowed us to relax, begin to reveal our Light, wisdom and stories — and be supported for it more than was ever possible before that time.

Thirdly, for many of us, our “real work” only began as soon as the big wave of Indigos came in during the 1980s. Many of us were just marking time, doing the best we could with our circumstances, often feeling adrift, until the ’80’s. when suddenly it might have felt that we were somehow called forward or awakened from a dormant state, our true mission “activated” at last. (Note: I don’t mean this to sound fatalistic, because it isn’t. We all had our assignments when we got here; it’s just that for many of us, the assignment didn’t start until we were several decades old — if that makes any sense. If you are one of the adult Indigos for whom this is true, you will immediately understand what I’m talking about here.)

Finally, we who came in first have been pathmakers. We prepared the energetic field for the others. We were truly like “linebackers” energetically — we cleared much energy, made many preparations, and “took the hits” that might have devastated the younger ones later on. We raised the collective vibration where possible, and engaged with our missions as best we were able. There were no guides. There were no signposts. Imagine what that must have been like, if you can: like being behind enemy lines in a hostile and dangerous territory. doing work upon which all life on this planet might one day require for its very existence. Los Ingognitos: that’s who we were. And we came in gladly, knowing that this is how it would be when we got here.

Were some of the hippies of the 1960’s early Indigos? By and large, no. They had a different role, mission and purpose. The Indigos who came in during this time recognized the hippie movement as a necessary energetic wave — and a few got caught in the drug scene and were lost during that time.

Of course one of the common arguments I hear is this: “But aren’t we all waking up now? Aren’t many people evolving into the traits that Indigos carry?” Ahh! Good question. And yes, there is an answer. Many humans are indeed waking up now. The ascension energies and process is like a tide that “lifts all boats.”

But here is the #1 criteria that I use (successfully, I believe) to help a person discern whether s/he is one of those evolving and waking up, or if s/he is Indigo. After you consider the traits and characteristics that many indigos share, ask yourself this one simple question: “Have you always been this way? Or have you changed as you have grown and developed yourself?”

If you have always been this way, you are most likely Indigo, regardless of how old you are now.

If you have evolved and developed these characteristics over time, then probably you are not.

The New Children disdain labels and don’t really like being set apart. Let us who are adults accept ourselves for who and what we are with the same grace.

If you recognize yourself now as an Adult Indigo, however, welcome to you! I am honored and happy to meet you. I hope you will contact me and introduce yourself; I’d love to hear from you.

We truly live in an amazing time. Whether you acknowledge yourself as Indigo or not, I appreciate your Light and thank you for adding your Love to a world that needs all of your special gifts.

As the Universal energies accelerate, for many of us it can feel overwhelming at times. It can feel a little like “growing pains” ~~ not all of our systems are synchronizing with each other and with the moving energies. It could be that different aspects of our being are growing or adjusting at different rates. All of this can be downright uncomfortable, to say the least!

Then add in the factors of what the rest of the world may be doing, thinking or feeling — and it can all feel like “too much.”

Just please know, if that sounds familiar, that you are definitely not alone — and that there will come a time of integration and peace for each of us, even if at different rates and times. But it WILL happen.

So what do you do while you are “in the birth tunnel”?

Breathe! Know that a portion of what you may be sensing or experiencing is not strictly “yours” but could be what you notice moving through the world as a human wave of change; all you really need to handle is YOUR piece of it, not ALL of it! Big difference.

And, I would like to offer what I hope is a useful bit of advice given to me by my guides some years ago. It has stood me in good stead ever since. I pass it along to you here.

TURN FROM WHAT IS NOT LOVING.

Turn from what is not loving around you. Do not engage with it, in any way. Put your attention on something you wish to create, instead. It’s like switching channels on the TV. Simple, once you get the hang of it.

Turn from what is not loving within you. As soon as you notice yourself reacting to something (like getting angry at how stupid some people are acting), remember to let it go. “Don’t go there!” Instead, return to the place inside you that is always connected to Source. Get out into Nature as fast as you can, and spend some time there. It will restore you.

Turn from what is not loving above you. Where authority is concerned, Indigos are already hard-wired to refuse to accept what does not come from Love or Truth. We are automatically “at odds” with the structures and systems that seem to have power over cultures and societies. The useful path will, from here on out, be to stay centered in the power of your own truth and to come from love always, yourself. This is a matter of personal discipline. Exercise this muscle liberally! The world needs our model, to survive. Don’t go into conflict over anything. Connect inside to THE highest authority of all: Source. And stay there. No matter what.

Turn from what is not loving beneath you. There will be turmoil among those who have not yet awakened. Rather than engage them at the base levels where they struggle, simply love them with compassion. You can only shine Light, you cannot truly lift anyone who does not wish to rise. Let them reach for their own Light — and their own connections to Source. At that place, you can meet and help. Do not venture beyond that threshold. Word to the wise. . .

You are always connected to Source, which is Absolute Love. Remember this in all conditions and circumstances. You can’t go wrong.

And in truth, this one practice can and will change the world and bring a lasting Peace.

Please join me in this adventure ~ it is a path filled with Light and Joy.

The whole planet — its peoples, animals, birds, fish, insects — and the Earth herself — is in a process of waking up.

Can you feel it?

Because we are made up of all the elements (the very “clay” of the earth — as well as part of her vibrational field — and part of the Life Force that makes up the Universe) — how could we not all be feeling the changes of accelerated energies as they move through us?

We will each notice — and respond — to this in different ways. Sometimes it’s our physical being that is challenged. Sometimes it’s the emotions. Other times we may not be thinking as clearly, and feel like we are living inside some kind of fog machine.

The best thing to do is to know that you are part of All-That-Is. And instead of individuals waking up one at a time, it seems like we are trying to do this all together. Wow! What an enormous effort! And yet, all each of us has to do is our own individual piece, whatever that is in each moment.

We don’t need to do it all, just the bit we’re given to chew on right now. And most of the time, we can handle that. At times when it feels like it’s too much — just wait. It will change. Even the most intense experiences (and hey, there have been some doozies over the past few months and years) will mellow and feel better as our systems adjust and get comfortable with the changes.

And remember to connect with other life forms — whether that be a human, a tree, a 4-legged, a flyer, a swimmer, or the Earth itself, It is in the connection that we find companionship, understanding, and peace.

And, from time to time, you can find information that helps. I hope that I am creating such a space for you here.

Here is another space online, whose intentions are to bring us closer while we grow: Time 2 Wake Up . And don’t forget What’s Up On Planet Earth

(That last one is one of my favorites, for validating things I’ve experienced recently.)

And finally, be alert for others who may need to know that it’s possible to live a life of integrity, Light, and love here, when all around us it may look like it’s all falling apart and darkness seems overwhelming. While we’re on this planet, it seems like we’ve needed the contrasts. Maybe we don’t need them so much any more?

And remember — to “lighten up” is a good thing to know how to do, anytime you want!

Let me know what you think. Stay centered, take good care of you, and shine your Light!

Yesterday was one of those days I will remember for how strange it was. Here’s one example. While I was standing in line at the Post Office (hey, we all know how well Indigos like to wait in line, right???) — I was coping with the inconvenience by practicing my breathing exercises — when I could not help but overhear the following transactions:

• A lady who speaks English badly asks the postal clerk if he can help her. She says she wants to get her friend’s mail for her. Her friend is in Colorado and has a mailbox here. But she doesn’t have the right mailbox number. The clerk tells her the friend needs to give her the mailbox number and the key, or they can’t help her. The lady says the friend forgot the box number, but she made her a copy of the key. The postal clerk tells her that it’s illegal to copy a postal box key, and the lady shows her the copy of the key her friend sent her. It wasn’t even a US post office box key! Sorry, lady. . . (So what was THAT all about anyway???)

• Next, we have the guy who moved 6 months ago and insists the post office is still holding his mail, even though they explain to him 4 times how it works. Finally he agrees to fill out a change of address form. Whew. That one’s solved.

• Then, there is the lady who dropped a letter into an outside mailbox and realized too late that it was for the wrong address. She wants to know how she can get it back. The clerk asks her how long ago this was. She tells him 5 weeks ago. Sorry, lady. . . you should have gotten the letter back by return mail (return to sender.) Well, that’s a problem because. . . she forgot to put a return address on the letter. (No, that’s not a punch line for a joke, this is a real transaction.) She asks if there is a “dead letter” place where it would go. The clerk says yes — and that there are more than 500 items in it currently. It’s the last task anyone ever does around there, so it might take a while to find. But, they have no idea which post office the letter might have been sent to, either. It might not be this one. And each P.O. has their own “dead letter” place. The lady wants them to somehow find it for her. They patiently explain they can’t do that. She leaves disappointed. As if it’s the post office’s fault. Hmmmm.

• Finally, I am just about up to the counter for my turn when I hear a lady talking on her cell phone. This is what I (and everyone else in line) hear: “Mom. I’d rather you just get a dog than a companion. You remember what happened last time, don’t you?” (Aw and she’s not going to tell us the rest of the story???? I bet this would make a terrific assignment for a writing class: finish THAT story!)

When I finally reached the counter, I asked the clerk in a low voice, “Tell me something. Did someone declare this to be Bring Your Strangest Problems To The Post Office Day? Because I didn’t get the memo! I only have an ordinary transaction.” The clerk roared laughing.
The rest of the day included frantic emails back and forth from someone who wanted to purchase some of my products — until she learned about the high tariffs of export to Japan.
One of my regular payments that always comes like clockwork got messed up and will be delayed 10 days instead.

Strange things happened online, that have never happened before or since.

A squirrel ran right out in front of my car. I screeched to a halt before I hit it. It stopped and sat in the middle of the street on its hind legs, looking at me. I waited until it decided which way it wanted to go. Thank goodness it was a side street with no other traffic.

Someone left a message on my voice mail and gave the wrong call back number. I’ll have to wait and see if they call again to return their call. Hope they don’t wait too long. (Memo to self: always make sure you leave the correct number when you leave a phone message. . . )

And so on.

Some days are like that. It’s not worth fussing about them. In fact if you can see the Lighter side, they are downright hilarious! And you know what? You can help — on days like that — by taking it Lightly yourself. Don’t stress. Help the rest of the world deal with it better by showing the humorous side to it — and wait. It will definitely pass!

Although this message was given several years ago, a dear friend recently reminded me about it and I felt it would be good to share with all of you as well.

Kuthumi, who is known in many traditions as one of the Ascended Masters, has left the world richer for his wisdom over the centuries. And through channeled messages periodically, the wisdom continues for those of us who are eager for our own personal growth — as well as to find support for our challenges as we step up to do our work here on the Planet.

Here is where to find the message that I found still so helpful today: Kuthumi on how to handle the stress

Isn’t it great to have a support system in place just when you really need it?

Let me know what you think of this one!

Oh. In case you don’t have a support system in place yet? Here’s a short list of suggestions to fix that:

• Let someone you trust in on what’s bothering you. People care about you — but they might not know that you’d welcome their support unless you ask for it. And you deserve to get that support!

• In your own mind, figure out what kind of support you’d most appreciate. Once you know what would feel most supportive for you — particularly when you feel frazzled — then you need to decide how you’re going to get that support. Consider asking people close to you to help you create that. Remember, as long as you’re human you’re going to have needs; it’s up to you to get your needs met in healthy ways.

• Remember that the Universe is filled with Beings of Great Light and Love who are only waiting to be asked. They are there for us. Call on them. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your own shoulders — it’s a myth that it’s even possible. We’re all in this together — no one person gets to handle all the energy by themselves. Call on the Above Ones as often as you can remember to do so. They will bring you peace of mind and heart — and help you realize how to position yourself for greater effectiveness, power and joy. If you don’t ask, you’re missing out on some tremendous “hidden resources” that are freely available to every human being on the planet!

• Take better care of yourself personally. This is the “oxygen-mask” theory — if you’re on an airplane, the attendant tells you to put your own oxygen mask on before you place the masks on your children; put your own “oxygen mask” on so that you will have enough air to keep breathing in an emergency situation and be ABLE to attend to the needs of others who may be asking for your assistance. You know what you need to be doing. Just do it!

• You also know what you need to STOP doing, that is harmful to your best and fullest living. Whatever it is, decide to release it. (How about right now??)

• If you’re an Indigo child, teen, or adult, you also need flower essences. Make sure your electrical system can withstand whatever the Universe throws at you. Get more information about that here. New formulas are always being added, so if you feel there is something you need that you don’t see, ask me about it and I’ll see how I can help.

• Bring on a consultant for the tough jobs. Everyone has a gift; if what needs to be done isn’t the area where your gifts lie, invite someone whose gift it truly is. You will both be pleased with the results.

Make your journey Lighter — with a little help from ALL your friends!